Archive | April, 2013

Changes & Strengths

30 Apr

I cannot believe it has been 50 years since I graduated from high school.  Wow!  That is not possible.  But alas, it is true.  As a young high school graduate, I was 17 years old, the youngest in my class, and I know now, very naive.  I was unable to get a job outside my small hometown, because large companies did not hire anyone who was not 18 years old.  I lived with my parents and worked odd jobs until I turned 18 in the fall.  I had been raised in a home that was very strict on the daughters, but not so on the sons.  The boys were allowed to go and do whatever they could get by with.  Can we say double standard here?

I was not allowed to date until I was sixteen.  I was constantly cautioned not to put myself in situations where I could get “in trouble”.  This included teen sex and teen pregnancy, which was a great fear to parents in those days.  I knew a number of girls who got “in trouble” and was sent away.  Returning later without a baby and claims of just visiting various family members.  If you got “in trouble”, you were forever labeled wayward or bad.  Good girls were not allowed to associate with them.  We were supposed to stay virgins until we married.  Our goal in life was to stay at home to be a wife and mother.  There were no encouraging words to go to work outside the home.  Amazing how times have changed???

I just could not see myself in that role before I had a chance to see what life was all about.  I left small town America and went to the big city.  I was able to get a great job with Southwestern Bell Telephone.  I learned how to be a city gal and I loved it.  I also began to see how times were changing and how attitudes were also.  Working women became the norm.  More divorces began to happen as women no longer accepted the roles they had been forced into.  We have graduated—with many struggles from women in the past who fought male suppression to keep us “pregnant and barefoot” in the home.  I heard that phrase a lot growing up and it really turned me off.  I am not a feminist, but I do like the freedoms we now enjoy because of many battles fought by other women from the past.

Barefoot & preggo

I have been a daughter, wife, mother and now grandmother.  I have learned that I have failed many times, but each time it strengthened me to grow into the person I am today.  It is said, “we learn from our failures”.  That is true. No one likes to fail.  But out of the ashes comes strength.  In my first book, The Runaway, I showed Linzie to be a strong woman who has endured life’s trials.  She knows that if she wants to accomplish more she has to get out and do it.  Trusting always in the Lord to lead her steps, she ventures from her comfort zone.  I hope that in reading her adventures, you will be encouraged to find your own adventures.  Never give up on your dreams!

60’s are the Cat’s Meow

25 Apr

Everywhere I look there are news articles about baby boomer health issues. Are there really no other interesting topics for the media to discuss for people in our generation? Just because we are over the hill doesn’t mean we are two steps from the grave!

baby boomer health

We are healthier and are living longer than our parents and grandparents.  We have retired, for the most part, and are looking for fun and excitement.  At least, I am.

 baby boomer fun

I have heard that some people call women in their late forties and fifties, “Cougars”.  This is a term that is used to describe women who go after younger men.  Well, why wouldn’t you want to go after younger men?  They are delicious!  If you had your choice of a hard Popsicle or a soft bowl of ice cream on a hot summer day, which one would you pick?  Does age really matter if both parties like each other?

It has always been accepted for an older man to date or marry a much younger woman.  That phrase became known as a “May-December” relationship with everyone elbowing each other behind the couple’s back with smirks on their faces as if they knew what went on behind closed doors.  (Truth be known maybe nothing!)

However, it may surprise a number of people to know that a mature woman can be very sexually active a lot longer than a man…..unless the older man has been good about taking care of his health and is able to remain sexually active.  Of course, we can discuss the pros and cons all day long about who or what is correct, but it comes down to each individual’s likes and dislikes.  I have known some women who do not want anything to do with sex after their spouse has passed.  Then there are others who want to remain sexually active, but can’t find anyone her age that is able.  Hence, she will begin to look for young men!

I have coined a new phrase (at least I have not seen it out there) for women in their sixties and beyond, and that is “Mountain Lion”.  The mountain lion is a strong cat who takes care of itself and its lair.  I think a new term for us Baby Boomers would be appreciated.  We don’t want to be lumped into the “younger” group and not be recognized in our new status. We have our “bucket list” of to do’s and want items.  We have many varied interests from sky diving to riding motorcycles and everything else in between.

mountain lion

Is there anyone who will agree with me on this?  Would love to hear your comments.