License Renewals

30 May

We all have something waiting to be renewed almost daily.  Our driver’s licenses are very important to all of us who drive or wish to continue to drive–legally.  But besides a driver’s license, there are many other licenses, or dues, we have to maintain like a concealed weapons license, dues at various clubs or organizations, insurance policies and we even have to renew our library cards.

renewalBut here is the question I want to ask,has anyone ever thought about renewing your marriage license?  Now wait a minute, before you go shouting at me, it seems that it is the only license we acquire that does not ever have to be renewed.  Why is that?  Have you ever thought about what your marriage would be like if your spouse knew that the renewal date was rapidly approaching and wondered whether you wanted to stay married to him/her – hoping that you would want to renew it for 5, 10, or more years?  What if, when you bought your first marriage license it could be renewed in 10 or 20 years—depending on what you had in mind?  Then, when the date was nearing expiration, you could either end it by not renewing or renew for another term.

Just think the number of divorces would drop because no one had to file for divorce.

Oh my goodness, the divorce lawyers would starve to death.  divorce

Any comments about this revelation?

Love, Augusta

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4 Responses to “License Renewals”

  1. Anna Gregerson May 31, 2013 at 3:28 pm #

    The concept sounds good but the execution promises to undermine the whole thing. Marriage is defined and supported precisely because it is within the perspective of a lifetime contract. Banks, the governent, the community, your famiky and friends….not to mention your own two have become one selves…count on it, modify expectations and supports, thrive with it present. Sure, divorce strikes but it is still not the purpose…and 50% of the time, the lifetime does indeed happen. 5,7,10 years are a car purchase, not building a life and the lives attached to that. Have often thought that marriage licenses should require education and proof of intent and capability. Much like drivers licenses and professional licensure. But once married, the only way it works IS to have that lifetime in which you are both together and are going to have to take major action to disengage and separate out. Ironically, it is actually the thousands of daily renewals…those I Do moments that make another piece of paper unnecessary.

    • augustawright June 12, 2013 at 5:59 pm #

      Anna, you are so correct that marriage is defined and supported as a lifetime contract. But most contracts have terms and after the terms are fulfilled it terminates. My inner thoughts about marriage license renewal is that if it was a fact more people would work with each other to maintain and support their life time committment to each other so that neither would want the license to expire a sad death. As you know too often after people marry, they no longer give a thought to what their spouse is needing or feeling. It is their way or the highway. Sad but too often true.

  2. Tammy May 31, 2013 at 6:04 pm #

    Ugh! Good post. Because I have to say, it gave me the heebie jeebies. I can’t imagine living that way. If my husband didn’t want to be with me for some reason, I’d want him to be required to come and tell me he wanted out. Not just get to wait it out and then get a pass.

    • augustawright June 12, 2013 at 5:59 pm #

      Tammy, thank for letting me know your feelings. I was thinking out loud when I wrote that. But the possibilities are amazing. I just felt that to know you were forever glued to someone might have been reactions if there was an agreeable out if anyone wanted it. Most contracts, once the terms are fulfilled will expire.

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